Judgement Sucks, Right?

Hey there, Happy Mamas (and Papas, too),

Quick heads up: I've used a few choice words in this post-nothing major, but if you're easily offended by curses, swears and grown-up words, I won't be offended if you sign off now. :)

Now, today's topic is relevant to everyone. I hope it helps to give you some support as well as possibly open up another perspective on this topic. Thanks for checking it out. 

Have you ever found yourself a victim of judgement? You probably have because, well, you're alive and a lot of people tend to size others up. They just do. In my experience, I've found that most people get all judgey because they're operating from a fearful and emotional place. Whether they're insecure about something that your actions or words bring up for them, or they're threatened in some way by your success or ideas, or maybe you represent something new and different (and therefore scary) for them.

Judgement happens, and it can really hurt sometimes. People say mean and unkind things, and those words can hurt. They may stop you dead in your tracks, make you second guess yourself, your decisions and course in life.

It isn't easy, or nice. Especially if it comes from someone close to you or someone who's opinion you value. Sometimes it's from someone who has supported you in the past, or you felt connected with. It can feel like a violation and a betrayal. Especially if they share their judgements with others, without your knowledge (aka talking shit behind your back).

What helps me in times like these, is this right here: most people don't actually know what they're talking about. That sounds a little harsh, I know, but what I'm really saying is that people don't always have the full story, and so they lash out in judgement based solely on what they see or have been told by others. They are more than likely using their life experiences (which feel very legitimate and well-rounded to them, and really they are-to them) and vantage point to make a conclusion.They may have a particular sensitivity to something you've done because maybe, it's been done to them, or maybe it just reminds them, on a subconscious level, of a negative experience they've had.

When you're the recipient of judgement, it more than likely has absolutely nothing to do with you personally. It just feels that way. This same principle applies to those situations where people are mean, bitchy or jerky to you, out of the blue, for no reason. Example: when you offer the guy in line behind you at the grocery store (because he only has a small basket of groceries) the opportunity to hop in front of you, and he snaps at you about it. I'm pretty sure he had some other stuff going on, that had nothing at all to do with me.

I'd like to touch on another result of judginess-what I'll refer to you as the snowball affect. When one person starts passing judgement on another, and they share their impressions and conclusions with someone else (you know, that 'talking shit' thing I mentioned above), and that person helps the judgement ball keep on rolling by adding their own opinions and judgements. They may just want to be supportive, but it can definitely make things worse. The result here can be a whole bunch of people, without the proper information, making someone feel pretty awful about their life, their decisions and their situation.

I'd love, love, love to start or at the very least contribute to a kinder, more compassionate and considerate revolution here. Please join me. The next time you find yourself the recipient of someone's harsh, judgmental words, try to understand that they're doing their best, too. It may not seem that way, or feel very nice at first, but I believe we can re-train ourselves on how to react to these situations. When someone hurts you, it can definitely offer some immediate relief to attack their character or mental stability. (Which in some cases, actually is the case, but let's not worry about that right now).

And, here's where the real change can occur. Let's flip things around here so you can ask yourself if you've been judging others....ask yourself if you've been jumping the gun on making unkind conclusions about others, especially if they're based on half-truths or skewed versions from third parties. It's more hurtful than you may think. When you find yourself making a snide remark about another's decisions or actions, take a deep breathe and ask yourself this: is this other person doing their best in a difficult situation, a situation that I could only ever partially understand? Am I offering them enough support? Am I offering them any support? How can I use my unique skills and talents to help instead of hurt?

We're all in this together, and I think everyone, myself included, can definitely step up to the plate and offer up some more love and support. We're not perfect and we'll never be perfect, but I know that we can improve on how we treat others.


How did this post resonate with you? Did it resonate with you at all? I know that we normally feel pretty justified when we make a judgement against others, but maybe things look a bit different now. And the next time you feel unjustly judged, how can you react in a way that would make you feel more uplifted and less attacked? I would love to know what you think. Please leave a comment below if this topic moved you or struck a chord in some way.

Until next time, have yourself a fantastic day!

Super-charged Green Powder

Hello Happy Mamas!



So, this week I added a little something super-charged to my smoothies. It's very green, almost flavorless, and really intensifies the color of your smoothies. It's called Spirulina, and it's available as a pill or a powder. It's pretty awesome stuff....here's a quick list of why I decided to give it a try.



* it's packed full of all kinds of essential vitamins and minerals, such as: iron, copper, calcium, B1, B2, B5, B3, B9, B6, B12, E, K.....
* it's a great source of protein
* it aids in anxiety management
* it gives you a really natural boost of energy
* it slows your metabolism and makes you feel full longer
* it has 26 times more calcium than anything else
* aids in alleviating allergic reactions
* anti-inflammatory
* it's an authentic source of omega-3 and omega 6 fatty acids (making it a great fish oil replacement option for vegans and vegetarians)
* contains anti-aging properties


 I've read that there are no side effects, which is great. It's a naturally occurring blue-green algae that grows in warm, fresh bodies of water like lakes and ponds. I really liked the rich, emerald color that it added to my smoothie, and the taste was a bit different, but it wasn't unpleasant. For all of the health benefits mentioned above, it's definitely worth it.


Click here for more info.


I hope this post helped you learn a bit more about another helpful and healthy option. Have you tried Spirulina before? How did you like it? Head on over to my Facebook page and leave a comment!


Have a fantastic weekend!!

~Cozetta